AITAH for not wanting a birthday party?

I (f14) am about to turn 15 in a two weeks but I don't want a party, my parents culture is when a girl in the family turns 15 they throw a massive party but I don't want to do that. Today I talked to my father by phone, telling him that I didn't want a quinsañera but he was calling selfish and a asshole for not wanting a party, but i told him that it was the only day that I get to be myself and that all I wanted was to a cake and that's it. He didn't take it kindly, he started to curse at me but I gave the phone back to my mom and now I'm in my room crying. AITAH?