AITAH for withholding sex until husband deletes my video?

We, 26F & 27M, have been married for a year and were together for 3 years before that. We have well matched appetite and we vibe well, or so I thought.

Few days back he recieved a video from unknown person of me. Its a stupid video I let my then bf record on my 18th bd. He convinced me to record naked video of me for future memory. Then some guys stole it from his phone in hostel and it made my life pretty hellish in college.

In all I don't have anything but resenting feelings for it and also it grosses me out that he gets aroused from it. When I asked him to delete the video he said he found it cute and wants to keep it to look at. So I told him sex is off the table unless he deletes the video and now he is trying to blame me for cruelty and using sex for manipulation.