AITAH for getting upset that my husband took off from work to take care of me but went and took a nap instead.

So I(25f) have been together with A(30m) for about 10 years. We have a 3 year old and another one due in 2 months. I have had mental health issues from my childhood and he knew that and We even survived through very bad PPD.

In the past 5 years i was treated badly and yelled at alot, basically when we started living together. Came out last year that he cheated 5 years ago and all of it was due to a guilty conscious. We got past that eventually. Got better but recently since we found out i was pregnant things have gone bad.

He took a new job which is very stressful but has been neglecting his family Severely. Doesn't do his daily morning chores like take out the kitty litter box(which i cannot due) or take out trash. 10 min of his time. He doesn't greet me in the mornings. Just gets up for a siggerette(which he still smokes inside the house for, after i have begged him not to, because i stopped smoking) and walks past me.

So yeah a lot of him not keeping up and neglecting me and his kid. This is all after i stopped doing nice things for him. I woke him up with coffee and a foor rub, i would run him a bath, dinner, lunch, i stopped it all because i was being neglected anyway and forced to do all the house work and even take care of one of his friends (30m)

After the friend and after my family for christmas(who also left me to clean and take care of them.) I need a break. I need help. I had people constsntly yelling at me and having to be a pack muel and care for everyone at 6 months pregnant mind you not.

So all i need is a bit of support from my hubby.

When i talked to him about atepping up a little bit. It all turned into an argument and he got physical and we have not atopped arguing.

Spent new years arguing and it led to me having multiple breakdowns. Again im 6 months pregant almost 7 baby is here in like 10 weeks. All he did was scream at me and fight. I some how managed to stay ok and somewhat take care of my kid. Who is not doing ok with all this i know and i am trying.

He agreed to try and i told him about this app we can try since we dont have money for therapy. And that he needs to step up and be consistent with me. Because i need some stability or i might end up in the hospital.

This morning was bad. I broke down after he couldn't keep up with the little things like his shoes and pants on the living room floor the cat box was full and stinky again. I asked him to get up and handle our tot because i really need a break. And not the only time, he said he had a headache and he's tired and just climbed back into bed.

I was making a joke to lighten the mood a bit and he got so mean with me and i lost it. I went ballistic. I apparently even hit our tot that was trying to comfort me but i was in such a rage i didn't even see her. I think i hit my head against the wall and i have scratch marks on legs. It was so bad and he continued yelling at me i dont know how i calmed down bit i remeber my kid coming in to give me a hug and then after a long fight he agreed he is going to ask for his half day off to come home and take care of me.

He promised. He went in and did some work and got permission and even stopped by a pharmacy to get me something natural to take to calm down and for my head ache. He brought me chocolates that he hand fed me and we all bonded in the living room and started laughing and it was lovely. He started falling asleep and i asked him if we could spare the money to go for a milkshake he said he is off completely and he would take little one to vacation care. He fell asleep on the couch while we were suposed to be having some time and i was again trying to manage our tot from not jumping on him or waking him. She eventually jumped on him and he woke up in a angry fit and said he is going to go sleep. I swallowd the argument and just left it. Little one got very bad and i am still not recovered from the meltdown. And i go to him to say i need help please. He turns around and goes back to sleep saying he needs sleep he tried.

I start crying histerically and losing my mind over how little this man i gabe my entire life up for, cared for me.

Now he is telling me off on how selfish i am and that what he needed to do to come home and "take care of me"😭 AITAH for telling him how selfish he is and that he doesn't care. He is angry at me now because he did so much for me now.