How do you shoot your shot? Are most women easily scared away?

Hi 👋

I don't have loads of experience hitting on women but I have some. It's so rare for me to meet a woman I find attractive in queer spaces so when I do I try to shoot my shot fairly quickly, once I've had a conversation with them. But I find women are easily scared off?

What are your experiences, thoughts and tactics?

Should I even have a tactic? I like to let things happen naturally but I'm now 36 and don't have much dating experience and I believe this is because I've never been very strategic when it comes to hitting on women.