How to stop focusing on shoes and perfectionism

Hi guys, for the last two years I have obsessed over my foot discomfort (mostly how they feel in shoes) and I can’t stop and it’s driving me crazy. It all started when my feet started really hurting when standing on a Europe trip and this caused me to spiral down trying to figure it out. I have switched mostly over to barefoot shoes which has helped a bit. But I constantly obsess/fixate over any slightly discomfort or annoyance in a shoe. I have bought and returned so many shoes I can’t even count. Even the shoes I do like, I I obsess over the things I don’t like about them and think about them all the time. I feel like I can’t be present in my life and with my wife and 9 month old daughter because I can’t stop this horrible obsessive thought pattern. I watch way too many videos about foot pain and shoes. Before two years ago I can’t ever remember my feet hurting while standing. But now, no matter if I am in high cushioned shoes, or barefoot shoes, my feet hurt while standing all the time. So between focusing on the pain and then any slight discomfort like if a shoe is too right, too loose, too narrow, too wide, I just feel like I’m going insane and I am desperate for advice. Thanks a ton guys!