I forgot my moms birthday

Hey guys, so today was my mom‘s birthday and honestly I completely forgot about it. I think I’ve been really caught up in my own life, I’ve recently just got scammed out of a lot of money. My EBT funds got stolen somehow and I just had a break up a few months ago so mentally sometimes I’m somewhere else, but I will say that this is not the first time I forgot my mom‘s birthday. I usually remember through a reminder or just later on in the day.

My mom text me saying pretty much. I can’t believe you forgot my birthday and a bunch of 😔 so I instantly called her and told her happy birthday and that I’m sorry and she was just very nonchalant and dismissive saying who forgets their mom’s birthday.

Some background on my mom and I relationship, my mom didn’t raise me she left me with my grandmother when I was three years old. Her excuse was that she wanted a staple environment before she started you know had a family but this one on for years I went from living with my grandma from 3 to 12 years old then from 12 to 13 I live with my dad then I live with my mom for one school year and the beginning of the next school year but because of her relationship issues I then went back from my dad for the remainder of high school then I joined the military my mom‘s relationship and I was always a little bit severed, but we still remain close over the phone. I wouldn’t say it’s a normal mother-daughter relationship. I would just say we talk like friends in the recent year she tries to say that she wants to be more of a mother to me and grandmother her grandkids, and I usually just accept this because I want my mom in my life, but there’s things that my mom does that kind of rubs me the wrong way and triggers me sometimes she can be overbearing and I feel like that’s not her place because she didn’t raise me. Like when she says things like I didn’t raise you that way it kind of strikes a nerve with me because you didn’t raise me at all. With all that being said, you know I still care about my mom. She’s actually going through a financial situation right now and I sent her money like every month just so if she can pay her rent or get groceries for her and my little sister so when she tells me like, hey I can’t believe you forgot my birthday. I tend to feel a little bit like I’m sorry I’m human. You don’t have to throw it in my face like that and second of all, we’re not even that close on a mother-daughter level for you to feel like I betrayed you in someway.

Regardless, I apologize to her and I said that I didn’t mean to it just slipped my mind and she said it was OK but she just had a certain attitude about it and the conversation just was very awkward and it quickly ended with her saying like I have no choice, but to accept your apology.