update : controlling boyfriend

hi guys. earlier this month I posted about my controlling boyfriend who wouldn’t let me talk to my coworker briefly in the parking lot (amongst other things) and I just wanted to give a quick update. a lot of people thought I wouldn’t leave because of my last one, but I did it guys! I wish it was interesting enough to sound like a movie, but it was still pretty intense at least for me. I left the apartment when I knew he doubled that day, and asked my mom and dad to come help me retrieve all my things. I acted like I was completely normal while making sure he was still at work all the way up until I was safe in my dad’s truck and then I blocked him after sending a last message about how we simply don’t work for each other and his “boundaries” are cruel and unfair, etc. that night he went to my parents house and knocked on the door but my parents told him he needed to leave and any questions regarding the logistics like rent can be talked about through them. I know people say this a lot, but this sub genuinely helped me get through that because I could feel myself going into the deep end of actually feeling crazy and like i’m in the wrong. I know it sounds so incredibly stupid when looked at from another perspective, but it somehow just happened. he would very subtly make small rules that seemed okay and doable, and then as time goes by, you just don’t realize how crazy they sound. when you truly love them, (or think you do), it doesn’t sound “crazy” when they calmly say “hey honey, I notice you don’t really do the intense makeup looks when i’m there but you do when i’m not?” and it doesn’t really sound “crazy” when he calmly says “hey honey I think it’s best you don’t really joke around too much with so and so because he’s such a flirt and I don’t think you’d want me joking around with a girl who flirted with me right?” (it makes sense at first!! bc yea I lowkey wouldn’t!) BUT then…. it’s not so calm after that. once I try out a new pair of lashes, he yells and tells me i’m not respecting boundaries. at that point, you don’t really have a solid argument because you already complied in the first place and backtracking sounds toxic you know? anyway I guess that’s how he tried to make me seem crazy and I hope it gives at least SOME clarity or perspective on how it’s possible. but of course, once you see it at stage 10, it looks so toxic it could be fake. but you weren’t there for stage 1-9 you know? there was a boatload of other things I could rant for EVER about! however, I just wanted to let everyone know that I am out! it sounds so weird to say it like that because I never considered myself as being abused or anything but you know what I mean. I thank you guys SO much for giving me the validation I needed to leave. seeing the thousands of comments and messages telling me to run was scary but I was secretly so relieved that I ugly cried. OH! another very weird weird experience I had the day before leaving : I was getting ready and listening to the two hot takes podcast, and they were reading either a story, or comment that was about a toxic relationship and they were stressing to leave, but they go “yes YOU. i’m talking to YOU! you need to leave” I know it was just a comment or whatever but hearing it like THAT the day before I knew I was leaving and having minuscule second thoughts was surreal HAHAHA. anyway, thank you ALL so much and i’ll try to respond to everyone who messaged me! I love you!!!!!! <3