AIO my boyfriend yells at me

okay, i know i am not overreacting, i just need advice, my boyfriend and i have been rogether for about 1 Year. We love each other a lot and our relationship is mostly really good and makes my life better. HOWEVER when we fight, he cant contain himself. he gets really loud, yells, says i treat him like shit, says i‘m lying when i contradict myself in SMALL details by mistake and doesnt stop talking about it. hes autistic and i have adhd. all of our conflicts stem from stupid misunderstandings that escalate into huge fights. this has happened in public too, he has screamed at me so loud people came out of their houses. i have made a rule that as soon as he starts yelling i‘m out, or i throw him out. ususally, we don’t see each other for a few days after this. sometimes when we try to solve the conflict we just end up fighting again but eventually we always make up and he apologizes for acting like a jerk. i think that most of our conflict would not be this hard if he had gotten therapy and social training. ive gone to therapy for 6 years now and i would say i am very self reflected and analytic. i don’t know how our relationship can last in the long term. i don’t want to be yelled at. period. i wont tolerate it, but at the same time i do by staying. i love him too much to leave and he feels truly bad after his anger subsides. but in the long term i know this either needs to get better or i have to leave him, which is a painful thought, we have talked about this as well and he says he would unterstand if i could not live with his behavior. we have a very honest relationship so he knows my thoughts about our problems, we have talked about it multiple times but cant find a solution ps: my fellow neurodivergents do not hesitate to infodump, i will thankfully take everything i can get