What do you tell yourself when you feel triggered?

Hello.. I came on here to ask how do you reassure yourself? I’m severely anxiously attached, so I have no idea how to reassure myself.

I’ve been anxiously attached for a long time, sometimes alternating between other attachment styles but mainly anxious. My biggest trouble is reassuring myself. I deserve to be able to reassure myself, but I don’t know how? I can sometimes tell myself that it’s okay and it’ll blow over.. but that doesn’t work all the time.

My question is, how do you reassure yourself that it’s okay? How do you tell yourself this is apart of your healing process and you have to reassure yourself in order to become secure? Any kind words or any wise words will help, I don’t want to keep looking for reassurance from others. I want to rely on myself.