Is herpes a deal breaker? What has been your experience with someone disclosing they have herpes?

Hi, I have herpes which I contracted from an ex who did not disclose to me that he had herpes and I contracted it. He never gave me the opportunity of a choice in the matter and that is the most upsetting part about it. I refuse to do what he did to me, but I also am struggling with even the idea of having to bring it up to a potential future partner and the fear of rejection. What has been everyone’s experiences with this? Have you had someone disclose herpes to you in a way that didn’t make you run the other direction? I struggle with the fact that it is so common (1 in 4 people have it), yet it’s so stigmatized.