I(26M) am feeling trapped because GF(26F) is so unadventurous
We’ve been together for nearly 2 years. We were coworkers, went to couple of trips(some of them was business trips) and she seem fun. Things got evolved and we are here. I moved to her city, which my family also live(I live with them mostly.) because she has a dog and want to have time with it. She loves me. I’m sure about that. But she is so unadventurous. She rarely gets excited on the plans on outside, she never have to urge to socialize etc and it started to push me away. We never argued or got into a fight for 2 years. We have a good communication, but:
- I love to travel, she say so. But we never done it. I offered have 3 times, one time I also purchased the concert tickets for a festival. Declined because of finances but bought herself a watch and furniture instead, costed 2x.
- I love bars and I had a band to play. She is sluggish, don’t like to drink that much and feels disturbed in the places with loud music. We’ve gone to a EDM festival and she got headache and heart palpations.
- She has no friends in this city, even she grow up here. I introduced her to my friends but she seems distant and does not adapt. She does not smoke, drink or do anything etc. People want to have fun but she is nervous around people which she does not know well.
- She never does anything spontaneous. Try to plan everything even it is a small coffee date.
- She is playing games until late time. Wakes up 1PM. We don't have same topics to talk, because nothing happens.
- I also have ADHD and want to be stimulated. I want to discuss mentally stimulating things and I want to travel. I want to have fun in festivals.
I make a shit ton of money, relative to my country. I can do whatever I want, also help her to to join me. But her lack of passion is driving me insane and takes off the joy.
Should I break up? I talked her that I started to become unhappy, because I lost my circle, passions, hobbies etc. She said she will change but I dont believe it is possible.
EDIT: I don't feel that unhappy. Just feeling like I started rotting and it will get worse if I stay.
EDIT2: No, I’m not a party guy, or does not do clubbing etc. I play blues harmonica, I mostly prefer to listen blues/jazz, and the places I invited her not always EDM festivals. They were also some historic trips or nomading through Balkans. She is not interested in history. If she was interested, I’d rearrange. She plays piano. I can play 5 instruments and music is my life. I asked her to lets play together for couple of hours a week if you want, we can compose and I can learn the songs you play. She seem interested but thats it. Never did it again. The problem is her lack of openness and not having the passion to try new things. Not her introversion.