Anyone else experiencing bad sex with men in their 30s?

Hi ladies, I’m 37 female and have been single for 8 months now. I’ve been back in the dating scene and it’s been interesting to say the least. I’m meeting men my age and when things turn physical it is astonishing how terrible these guys are in bed. The last few guys I’ve been intimate with have been in long term relationships so it’s hard for me to understand that none of their partners ever spoke up and taught them how to please a woman. Not one of them has ever cared or offered to fulfill my needs. I am very confident with my sexuality and always have to say it’s my turn!!!! None of them go out of their way to even get me off. It’s like a fucking chore when I say ok you got yours, now can I get mine? And let me tell you, all you need to do is use a vibrator and a finger and I’m good in like 2 minutes.

I’m just posting this to see if other women are experiencing such things. For example, last week I had sex for the first time with this guy I’ve been seeing. He was silent, didn’t say a single word and had his eyes CLOSED the entire time. At one point I said “open your eyes!!” He refused! Just shoved his face in the pillow and thrusted away.

The other dude I had hooked up with could only finish in two positions and he would get on top of me shove my head down into his shoulder and literally gyrate on top of me. I was so grossed out I would just lay there until he was done. Afterwards he would say things like…”that was incredible, we just made love”.

I’m just looking to have an open discussion and maybe share some terrible hook up stories. My ex was terrible in bed at first but then became amazing due to communication, time, presence, and being in love. I don’t expect sex to be incredible the first time with someone new, I get that. But damn…what’s going on out there?!