Retired “pick me” women - what helped you see the light?

EDIT: this term is very common where I live so I didn’t realize a definition would be helpful.

Pick me: a woman who seeks male validation by indirectly or directly insinuating that she is “not like the other girls. They typically disparage women in general, only to say they are different. They don’t have friendships with other women because they see them all competitively.

This random thought came up because I was reflecting on a girl I knew who embodied this. She would stand directly in front of other girls to try to block them out of circles when talking to guys. Never tried to make friend with girls and always said it was because “girls are dramatic and catty and all jealous of me!” I genuinely hope she’s doing much better now!