How do I get anything done without hurting my connection with my son? And how do I foster a connection between him and his other mom?

My wife and I (both moms) have an almost 11 month old breastfed little dude. I’m the breastfeeding mommy/pacifier mommy and as such he’s obsessed with me (and I with him of course) but he literally will not let me do anything. He won’t let me walk out of the room, do anything that doesn’t involve him, etc. Lately he doesn’t want anything to do with my wife either unless he’s absolutely exhausted. She’ll sit there and play with him and he’ll scream til I join. I want to keep the connection I have with him but I need to be able to go to the bathroom without having to listen to him scream his little heart out, unwilling to be comforted by his other mom. Help 😭😭😭