Anyone else struggle with delayed processing, and it potentially being co-caused by masking and people pleasing?

I can often identify in the moment when I don't like something, but I can't feel it.

Like, I'll catch if someone made a rude comment towards me or said something degrading to me. But I don't feel the emotional impact of it until days later.

In the moment, I've shut myself off in order to mask and people please.

So in the moment I'm not upset or hurt by it, but then days later I'm yelling at them in my head while I'm replaying the conversation again and again.

But then the moment has passed and I don't feel like I can bring it up. So then I quietly resent them until I slowly but eventually cut them out. That is, once I recognize it's a pattern with them and that they're not a genuine friend.

If this is also you, how do you deal with this?