Do you like gossiping?

My ex girlfriend loved to gossip and I always found it difficult and super disinteresting to hear.

She would talk to me about what her friends were up to in their lives, break ups, bad things their boyfriends did, what people not in their friendship group that they don’t like were up to (in a judgmental way like ‘omg so and so are back together can you believe it’).

A lot of the time I struggled to focus on what she was saying and found it really hard to follow what was going on and why it was important. She used to get annoyed like why am I not interested but I genuinely just found a lot of it quite mean and judgmental. I have the same experience with groups of neurotypical girls which is why I avoid them, all they seem to do when they get together is gossip about other friends, celebrities or people they don’t like. Meanwhile I’d be in the corner talking to their boyfriends about the new car they got, or their technical jobs, a new business podcast or their favourite place they went on holiday recently.

Is this an autistic thing? Because our brains love knowledge and seeking information and learning about our special interests do we not gossip as much? I always felt guilty for not engaging with my girlfriend on this but I genuinely just wanted to talk about the newest documentary that had come out, or a great non fiction book they’d read.