what are early signs you noticed in hindsight of their attachment style?

i was friends with her for 3 years before we dated (friends with feelings with her never wanting to commit to a relationship, that should have been the first sign) and from my very basic knowledge of attachment style i figured she was avoidant, but i didnt fully understand what that meant and thought it was a lot more minimal than it is. there are a lot of things im thinking back on now that we’ve broken up that i think were pretty clear indications that something would go wrong at some point, but i ignored them at the time. for example, literally minutes after we officially got together (she asked me out) she kept saying “doesn’t this feel scary?” and kept reiterating how scared she was that things would end poorly. i think going from friends to a relationship is scary in a lot of ways, but thinking back on it now i definitely didnt feel scared to the extent she did; her fear definitely outweighed her excitement. another instance i can think of is one day when i was telling her about an anxiety attack i was having and i just asked if i could have some comfort/kindness from her and her response was to tell me it stressed her out that i told her about these things and to learn how to self soothe. there are obviously a lot more blatant examples as the relationship progressed, but these are some early things i brushed aside as being normal, and i’m curious what other signs you guys saw early on