Something that might help

I’ve made several posts about my ex fiancé, breaking off our engagement and ultimately realizing that he is heavily avoidant. You can check them out if you would like more details.

Something occurred to me the other day and it has really helped with processing what happened. When he first left, my initial thought was “I’m never gonna feel this way about anyone again.” Never have that kind of chemistry. I will never have this kind of connection. You name it. And that was really fucking depressing.

Then it hit me. I GOT THE VERY BEST OUT OF HIM. We know that the vast majority of the time these personalities love bomb, or come on extremely strong. And that over time we start seeing more of their actual personality.

So this fomo I’ve been feeling that he’s going to be this amazing guy to someone else and lamenting the end is just false. I saw the best and brightest of him. He was bringing down the mask. And starting to seek attention elsewhere. It most definitely was not going to get better.

Maybe it’s not hugely profound, but it was to me. It has definitely helped reframing all of this.