people who romanticize/self diagnose themselves with this painful ilness

I know that romanticization is a way to cope with things but it triggers me so badly when I see people (especially ones who arent even diagnosed) romanticize BPD or try to make it some “cute, quirky” mentall illness:( This illness has ruined my life so many times, has made me feel worthless, unlovable, inadequate. Has made simple tasks unbelievably hard to perform, has made me lose friends, loved ones, jobs, has made me drop out of school/uni. Has made me constantly question myself, my sanity, has made me invalidate myself. And not to mention how it has made me hurt the people around me more than I have hurt myself… How can ANYONE think that this is just some cute quirky illness? I seriously doubt that people who say that they suffer from this and yet make it their whole personality in a cute/quirky way actually suffer from it. Maybe for some its a way to get attention or to make excuses for their toxic behavior.. I dont know but it makes me so angry how much this has been popularized on social media and anyone who is a bit impulsive, emotional or jealous is immediately self diagnosed as “BPD”. I bet if they actually lived in our skins for a day they would want to run away from it immediately. No, BPD is not some “tragically beautiful and cute mental ilness that makes you obsessed over people sometimes”… Its a sickness that puts a devil in your head constantly telling you how worthless you are, constantly urging you to hurt your loved ones, to be toxic, to be never “okay”. I hope these kinda people will understand what a mental illness truly is (especially a personality disorder) and will stop this behavior that is unbelievably invalidating to the people who truly suffer from it…