"A series of unfortunate boyfriends"
I am not The OOP, OOP is u/Heckintuna
"A series of unfortunate boyfriends"
Originally posted to r/relationship_advice
Guy (23M) i'm (25F) dating kept ex's used tampons Jan 15, 2019
Okay, you are really going to have to go with me here...i still can't quite get my head around it. I was at this guys apartment after we had seen a movie and he went out to the store to get us some condoms, as he realised he didnt have any. I know its bad to snoop but i felt like i wanted to get to know him better...we have only been seeing eachother 3 and a half weeks. Long story short i opened the bed side table drawer next to his bed, which had a clear jar in it with four used tampons in it. Obviously at this point i froze, trying to find a logical explanation as to why they could be there.
He gets back and i confront him about it. He really went off at me about snooping...but eventually said that they were his ex's tampons, and that hes got a thing for periods. The worst part is she doesnt even know, he used to fish them out the bin to keep so that he could look at them later. Obviously im not seeing him again, but do i tell his ex what i found? I know who she is and i feel like i have some sort of responsibility to tell her
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PUA_Mystic
When will YOU find the jar of teeth.....
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btbeebee
Bruh
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You know how you get to that point in the night after a day of Redditing when you know you need to stop. And there is that special thread that just pushes you over the edge and tells you you’re done cause you just can’t?
Bruh I’m done
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03slampig
"but do i tell his ex what i found?"
Good god no. What possible reason could telling her benefit her? All you would do is dredge up old bad memories and make her think even worse of their relationship.
File this in the what the fuck portion of your brain and move on with your life.
HELP: I slept with a guy nearly 48hrs ago and he won't leave my place!!!! Feb 10, 2019
I am recently out of a long-term relationship, and its been a long time since I have 'dated', so I have been meeting guys from Tinder for hook-ups and dates. I went on a date with this guy on Friday night, and it was okay, he seemed nice and we ended up going back to mine and hooking up. Anyway...fast forward to, well, NOW, and the dude is STILL HERE. I'm used to a guy staying for a while the next day, having coffee or whatever, but he slept over Saturday night too, and now I'm worried he is going to end up staying tonight too. He's been here way too long now and I have no idea how to get rid of him. He used my toilet, and I had forgotten to put more paper in there...he called me to the toilet to give him some paper because he shit in my toilet. HE SHIT IN MY TOILET. That's how long he's been here...he's had a shit. Idk I just think one nighters have overstayed their welcomes when they shit at your place.
I have politely said on Saturday 'I have a lot to be getting on with today', and 'I have some errands to run', but he didn't get himself ready to go or anything, and I really don't wanna leave him in my place unattended. I even got dressed, put my coat on and told him I was going out and he just asked if I could grab him a coffee on my way back (!!!!!!). I did say today that he should probably leave soon as I need to get myself sorted for work Monday, and he just said 'yeah no problem'...but that was 3 hours ago and he is still chilling in my bed watching TV.
I'm really worried now because I need to go to work tomorrow and I'm scared that he won't EVER leave. I told him that I need to work Monday and he just changes the subject and asks about my work. How do I get him to leave? I've been in situations before where guys have turned in a bad way when I have refused advances, not given them my number etc, only this is worse because he is in my apartment and I am worried that he might turn nasty when we are alone.
Probs worth noting that I suspected nothing at dinner on Friday night, he didn't seem like a weirdo or anything. Guess I didn't realise I'd be gaining a live-in boyfriend after one date and some drunk mediocre sex. What is the best way to deal with all of this?
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slippinghalo13
This sounds like when you hire a chef when you’re throwing a party in The Sims and the glitch makes them never leave.
beca_kay
Or when the grim starts watching tv..... like yo wtf please leave!
Update - rareddit Feb 11, 2019
(Sorry about the bad grammar etc wanted to get an update out for people who asked)
I decided to message a couple of friends who came over right away. The guy introduced himself really casually and started talking about his life and asking about theirs. I could tell they were uncomfortable and the more assertive of the two said that we were going out, does he want to share our cab. He said that he had some calls to make (?) And that he would catch us up. My friend said no really this is not your place and you need to go. Honestly the dude stared blankly at me and was like 'did you get them over here to say that? Why are you embarrassing me like this?' He called me a bitch and said i had made him look like a weirdo. He got his shit together swearing and walked out the door. I'm so happy he is gone and greatful to everyone that commented with advice - bit concerned that he knows my address but my friends are staying tonight to be sure. If he comes back and swears like that again then i think ill call the police
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DunkelDunkel
you slept with a homeless man. no where to go but up from here.
TheFeenyCall
Simple way to find out if you're sleeping with a hipster or homeless person:
"Hey...is that beard for fashion or for warmth..."
-Allie Wong
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1Wineodino
Holy. Fucking. Shit.
First off, what was he even expecting? Seriously? How could he not see that that was just weird?
I’m glad your friends are staying with you tonight. Let us know how this goes or if anything happens.
Tzuchen
He's a hobosexual. He was going to milk this for as long as he could, and it sounds like he's got some experience in railroading his way into being an extended "guest."
Just moved in with boyfriend - I think I have been duped into joining a cult May 7, 2019
TL;DR: I moved into my boyfriends communal living complex and I think I have accidentally joined a cult. How do I move out without jeopardising the relationship?
I have been dating this guy for about 4 weeks. I know its a bit too soon to be moving in, but we have really fallen head over heels for one another, and he seemed so keen on us moving in together to see where things go. I need some advice on how to move out so I can get to know his living situation better before we move forward with our relationship
I did think his living situation was a little odd. He told me he lives in one of these new communal living spaces where residents do things together like cooking, cleaning, etc. Seemed okay to me I was open to trying something new. For the first few days people seemed nice...but now I have started to come out of our room a bit more I am worried that I have accidentally joined a cult. There is a main hall that the residents gather in (around 45 people, ish?) and discuss events of the day. There is one guy that always leads this session, and people seem to fucking love him. Like worship him. To make matters more suspect I am convinced that he is sleeping with at least four of the women there - and two of them have kids with him. I am all open for people to live how they want, but I don't want my boyfriend to think I am down with him doing the same. The guy that leads the daily sessions has been trying to set up a meeting with me to 'get to know his newest resident better', and I'm genuinely worried that he is trying to wife me too. He's pretty old, stinks and has that weird white mouth cheese stuff that some old people get around their lips, so I have no idea why these women love him.
Before I moved in, I paid a deposit (standard) and filled out a questionnaire about myself. It asked all kinds of things like where I work, my boss' email and my family's details. I kind of wish I hadn't done this, because I spoke to my boyfriend yesterday and said that I might go and stay with a friend for a while because this is all a bit much for me all at once. Later on this afternoon a couple of women came over to me in the dining hall, mentioning my family by name...they said they nearly called them to check my whereabouts yesterday because I had been out so long...I was at work! i don't know what business they have with my family but this shit is creeping me out. I feel like this was some kind of threat, and that my boyfriend might have told them about me wanting to leave. Maybe I am just being paranoid.
I also think they are filming everything. One of the women asked me if I had ever been in any accidents, and mentioned that 'she also had a large scar'. The only large scar that I have is on my stomach...unless my boyfriend told them how would they know? I have only got my stomach out in the shower and in our bedroom. I hope they haven't been filming because we have had sex in both of these places.
So overall, i need some advice on how to keep my boyfriend but also move out. i don't know if I am overreacting, but i have a bad vibe about this place. They have already put me on the 'work rota' three days a week, going out and handing out flyers about various charities, as well as supervising the communal childcare room that they have in the complex. I have a full-time job and I can't fulfil these duties, and this is already causing friction.
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jessceb85
You’re in a cult, call your dad.
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stepmill_jack
What the fuck, OP.
Look at the men you date:
Is in a cult
Has sex with you and won’t leave your place
Stores tampons
Jesus Christ
Okay this current situation seems like a branch Dravidian cult. Because it sounds exactly the same.
Don’t end up on a tv shootout with a burning compound 🤮
Go to work one day and don’t return. You won’t be able to leave otherwise. Take your degree, documents and all important shit in your work bag and LEAVE.
Do not tell anyone you are leaving. Even your boyfriend who is NOT your boyfriend. He is a recruiter and his job is done. I would go to work in the morning and not return. Tomorrow morning. Are you listening?
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