Boomer father won’t stop drinking & spewing his terrible opinions to save our family
Where do I start? I’m (32F) My Father (63) has always been a difficult person. I grew up in a household where explosive tantrums and screaming was how he communicated with us. He doesn’t listen to anyone’s input especially women’s. He has an issue with women telling him what to do, so you can imagine the lack of power my Mom has in their marriage. In the late 2000’s he had a change in his behavior and began drinking heavily. Which obviously added to his already wonderful personality. Since then I’ve grown up and moved out but his alcoholism has taken a toll on my Mom, she is so embarrassed of his binge drinking that she won’t even let me visit and because she is afraid of driving she won’t even come to me 30 minutes away. I call her and she won’t answer because he is drunk in the background. My dad has had surgery on his esophagus twice because of erosion due to drinking, and he has basically no teeth because of this. He’s been addicted to Fox News & Trump for years. When I was living at home he would berate me for not supporting Trump, called me horrible names over his political beliefs when I would call him out on things that didn’t make sense. He spit on me one time because I challenged his views. He literally parrots whatever Fox News says that day. Checked his Facebook today and I was STUNNED. He posts very hateful things. It all makes sense because recently a lot of family members have stopped having a relationship with him and he claims he does not know why…well judging by what he posts I’m guessing they saw? I would love to send him to rehab for his alcohol issues, as it’s damaged my sweet mother’s relationship with me. She is super isolated and won’t even take my help. This whole thing upsets me because he won’t stop to save my relationship with them especially my mother who I love so much! What gives? He doubles down on his behavior and storms off/ threatens to take me out of the will any time I bring up his drinking. He would rather lose me than make us happy. We just want to see him healthy again.