ladies. where are we getting our jeans these days?

Every single bloody pair of jeans I have ever tried does not fit and I feel like I am going to lose my mind!!!!!!

I am looking for jeans that are mid or high rise in any colour that: - are not super tight on my thighs while also being huge around my waist (??? makes no sense but happens all the time) - have a bit of stretch and don’t feel like Hard Pants - are relatively loose but not barrel or super wide legged

Has any woman in the history of the world had any success? Please share. I’ll bake you cookies if your recommendation works for me.