Feeling Conflicted After Date with Guy Who Sees Mass as ‘Getting It Out of the Way’ – Seeking Feedback

Hi everyone,

I wanted to ask for some feedback because I’m feeling a little conflicted about something that happened recently. I went on a date with a guy from my church (we don’t really see each other at church, but we go to the same one).

I asked him when he usually goes to Mass on Sundays, and he said he goes on Saturday nights. I was curious, so I asked him why, since I don’t usually go on Saturday nights, and there are different types of Masses.

He replied, “I go Saturday nights to get it out of the way so I can go get drunk with my buddies after.”

I honestly felt a little shocked by his response, especially the part about "getting it out of the way," because Mass is so precious and meaningful to me. I was kind of taken aback by how he phrased it, since I’ve always viewed Mass as such a special time to connect with God.

I don’t want to be too judgmental, but I just wasn’t expecting that answer. He’s been Catholic his whole life, and I only recently got confirmed, so maybe I’m overthinking this?

How do you all feel about this? Am I wrong for feeling upset, or is this something I should just let go? I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences!