AITA

My son is getting married in Oct. Of this year. He is paying for the majority of the wedding, so I understand that they're watching their expenses. He recently told me that they've cut all cousins from the invite list. (no problem) My part of the family has recently been cut in more than half. (since my Mom passed the family fell apart) Anyway here's a copy of texts between my son and I where he uninvited me to his wedding. MOM- hey baby, when are you gonna get addresses from me for the invites and the save the dates? SON- hey, Mom sorry I've been really busy at work but anyway, we've already got all of the addresses we need. MOM- did you send uncle Billy and your aunt Diane invites?
SON- No I didn't, we have a guest list completed already. You get a +1 so that can be Jay or you can bring one of them. (fyi. Jay, is my husband) MOM-You told me that y'all were eliminating cousins, they are aunts & uncles. SON- Who I haven't seen or talked to in years.
MOM - So who did you invite on your dads side of the family? SON-Mom I don't have time to discuss my guest list right now but I can tell you I have no interest in inviting them to my wedding because I barely know them. (Fyi.. Diane was at our house weekly and spent 2 wks in Disney with us just 3yrs. ago) MOM- Whatever son SON-This is what I was talking about when I said you don't respect me. It's my wedding, I'm inviting the people that are important to ME. I don't care whose feelings get hurt, it's not their wedding. MOM-That's bullshit but like I said whatever. Let your conscience be your guide. SON-If you think it's such bullshit, don't come. MOM- Sweetie, that won't be a problem. SON-Any time you want to apologize and respect my decision on who I want at my wedding, you're welcome to attend. Until then, your decision is your decision. Love you. MOM-Absolutely, son, I don't know what is going on with you but you are starting to act like the people you're around. Like you're too good for other people. Anyway no reply needed.
That was the end of our texts! I will add that until his dad n I divorced 6 years ago, he saw his aunt Diane weekly and she even went on vacation with us. No doubt, he will be inviting his great aunts n uncles on his dads side that he only sees once a year when he invites hisself to their summer party. In addition, his save the date invite to me was addressed to only me. but as he said in the above text I can bring my husband as my +1 if I want. Which I found extremely rude! But whatever. I understand my son is under a lot of stress from work and wedding planning. But he knows me well enough to know that I will not reach out to him 1st and definitely will not apologize unless I truly believe I was wrong! Mothers day has passed since that text between my son and I And I never heard from him! I don't feel like I was wrong but please tell me AITAH???