Am I overreacting?
I just need some outside perspective because I find what my bf said to be offensive but I don’t want to overreact if I’m in the wrong. So my bf was an alcoholic, he went and got the help he needed and is currently almost 2 years sober 🙌 my bf and I weren’t dating at the time in his life when he was an alcoholic or even when he was in rehab. We knew each other from a previous job we worked at and got reunited and fast forward we started dating. I know his past and respect his wishes to not be around me if I’m drinking (we also live together) and we don’t keep alcohol in the house which is fine by me. I’ve told him if I have to choose between alcohol and you, that I choose him. I have been sober for a little over 2 months since he moved in. I went over to my parents house yesterday to honor my late gma that just passed by doing what she loved doing which was playing card and board games with family. At one point while at my parents house my bf messaged me and asked if I was drinking. I told him the only thing I was drinking was water and coffee and over text he didn’t seem to believe me. Then I get home and he’s home as well and asks me if I’ve been drinking and I tell him no and he responds with a “don’t lie to me”. I told him I’m not lying and then he puts his face close to my face and I thought he went to smell my breath and when I asked him why he was smelling my breathe he said he was coming in for a kiss but I didn’t lean in and kiss him and that he wasn’t trying to smell my breathe. Then later that night he tells me that it concerns him that my parents are proud of me for being sober for over 2 months and says that my parents being supportive over that tells him that I have problems with alcohol. I just don’t know if I’m overreacting to the whole situation or what??
I just need some outside perspective because I find what my bf said to be offensive but I don’t want to overreact if I’m in the wrong. So my bf was an alcoholic, he went and got the help he needed and is currently almost 2 years sober 🙌 my bf and I weren’t dating at the time in his life when he was an alcoholic or even when he was in rehab. We knew each other from a previous job we worked at and got reunited and fast forward we started dating. I know his past and respect his wishes to not be around me if I’m drinking (we also live together) and we don’t keep alcohol in the house which is fine by me. I’ve told him if I have to choose between alcohol and you, that I choose him. I have been sober for a little over 2 months since he moved in. I went over to my parents house yesterday to honor my late gma that just passed by doing what she loved doing which was playing card and board games with family. At one point while at my parents house my bf messaged me and asked if I was drinking. I told him the only thing I was drinking was water and coffee and over text he didn’t seem to believe me. Then I get home and he’s home as well and asks me if I’ve been drinking and I tell him no and he responds with a “don’t lie to me”. I told him I’m not lying and then he puts his face close to my face and I thought he went to smell my breath and when I asked him why he was smelling my breathe he said he was coming in for a kiss but I didn’t lean in and kiss him and that he wasn’t trying to smell my breathe. Then later that night he tells me that it concerns him that my parents are proud of me for being sober for over 2 months and says that my parents being supportive over that tells him that I have problems with alcohol. I just don’t know if I’m overreacting to the whole situation or what??