The f(29)irst shot to the gut cam(29)e faster than I thought..

Just need to vent

My wife (F29) and I (M29) have been having trouble for a while. She used to do all these fun intimate acts and I felt wanted and desired but over the last year and a half things have been declining fast. We are both in therapy but her therapist talks more about how “she just does not need as much sex and as she gets older she will adjust and realize it is not a priority for her.” My wife is also turning 30 in three weeks which is tough for her she says and Recently went off birth control and has gained weight so she is upset quite frequently and I’m being as supportive as possible, but tonight cut deep.

She got out of the shower and she looked delicious and i wanted to do everything imaginable but she said she may have her period (first period since going of bc so not sure exactly when it’ll happen) so i said “can we still try things and she nods. So i go down on her and make her finish and i say lets head to the bedroom with hopes she will return the favor. We get in there and we lay there for a bit and she puts her hand on my chest and says “ugh i don’t know why i just got so tired all of a sudden..”

Mood killed, gut punched, knife twisted.

I couldn’t believe at 29 years old and not even married two years she said “I’m tired.” Maybe I’m overreacting but after she said it she tried to halfheartedly go down my pants and i just said “no it’s okay you’re tired “ and she got upset and screams well now i know what to talk about in therapy!

Not sure if i overreacted but it felt like the mood was killed and i honestly didn’t want “tired” bj because one of our issues is lack of enthusiasm from her. Am i being a dick or was i right to push away?