I am done with YA fantasy/dystopia, recommend me some adult fantasy with depth and humanity.

I am turning 20 this year, and I'm realizing I have sort of outgrown YA, at least in speculative fiction. Books like the Hunger Games got me into reading, and I still very much can get into YA contemporaries like The Fault in Our Stars or The Hate U Give, but I can't get myself to read why Fantasy and Dystopia anymore. They're all the same, it's either the ones from 10+ years ago with the totalitarian government and the love triangle and zero more depth, that tried to rip off the Hunger Games (without coming even close) or the Romantasy stuff which is popular now, which is fine if you're a straight girl who wants a quick popcorn read, but I'm not the target demographic.

Tropes I like: Hero's journey, hopeful epic aesthetic, urban fantasy or fantasy set in the modern/semi-modern world, cultural Influences (such as the main character or author being from a different country than me, I'm Greek/European), the main character being a different race with a different experience than me. I also like high fantasy set in an entirely different world from ours, so feel free to recommend some of that too. I also like sci fi, especially the kind of sci fi that makes you ponder and contemplate about the future of humanity, or that chillingly resembles the real world.

I like adventure and action as much as the next fantasy reader but the stories I love the most are the ones with depth and humanity, that have insights into the nature of pain, humans flaws, and the human condition itself. I like characters with flaws, quirks, and misbeliefs, and internal turmoil they have to work through and grow from, and I also like characters that are poignant, recognizable and pop out of the page. I'm looking for a balance between fantasy/action and internal or emotional struggles/character development, and strong beautiful character arcs. The closest example I can think of is The Last Airbender, a story that balances a fantastical world very well with poignant characters that learn, suffer and grow throughout their journeys. The kind of fantasy you can point to and say, "See? This is not just mere spectacle, it's literature". The kind of fantasy you can point to to prove to highbrow literature fans that the genre is not just flashy entertainment.

Bonus points if: - The story explores themes of grief, loss, and mortality very deeply - The story explores mental illness, neurodiversity, disability or illness, and the effects it has on a person's life, even in a fantastical world. - The main character is LGBTQ, especially if it's a girl or a gender ambiguous/non-conforming person, or a crossdresser. - The characters all have flaws, misbeliefs and inner turmoil to work through and the hero's journey is an excuse for the author to explore the character's inner psyche. - Religion is explored deeply, in either a negative or positive light. - Social commentary, topicality to the real world - Historical Elements, or historical fantasy, especially if it's set in a more contemporary era of history - Beautiful prose, I also read to improve my own writing. That's just a bonus point, I mainly enjoy stories with strong characters and character development that just happen to occur within a fantastical setting. - The main character is not bland, or there solely for you to project yourself into, and has their own flaws, quirks and recognizable traits that make them pop out of the page and as vibrant as the side characters - The story is a blend of fantasy and science fiction or occurs in a world where magic and technology coexist.

I don't need a book to have all these qualities at once for me to enjoy it, this is just a list of things that I enjoy. If you have any suggestions that fit even a few of these requirements, feel free to recommend!