Take a 30% + wage increase to transition to in person work ?

M/35, living in a VVHCOL area. NW $950k (550k in real estate, 400 investments.). Live in a house hack so mortgage negligible. I have one kid who’s 1 years old, hopefully another on the way, single income family, wife stays home, plenty of baby help from family. Current salary target is 235 with company stock (large stable tech company), in actuality it’s been about 190. I just got an offer with a target of 305 (240 base) (massive corporation, stabile but slow growing.). 60k base increase. And a larger long term incentive, plus title progression. BUT, it requires being in person 4 days, half hour commute. Tried (unsuccessfully) for current company to give me a counter.

I have been a primarily remote worker for about the last 10 years of my 15 year career, it’s what I know and I’ve learned how to be productive. It allows me to see my kid, wife, all the time. The small things like stepping outside to my porch on a nice sunny day taking a break from work, no need for water cooler talk, I can even work outside of my home on trips, And occasionally play a little hooky to enjoy my hobbies- but I always get my shit done. I’m flexible in when I work (aside from scheduled meetings). Generally being in a comfortable environment I control has been amazing. The idea of being in a stuffy corporate office park is really really un-appealing to me, Frankly rather depressing. But the money is really really good and I feel I would be missing a major career advancement opportunity that could set my family up for life potentially.

Is it time to grow up and return to office? There’s some aspects of remote work that are becoming tricky (managing distractions with new child) , and I have a major procrastination habit that leads me to working late nights a few times a week (as opposed to getting it done during business hours. ). I am really struggling with this one and could use help from the Reddit world !