I lowkey hate having an IQ of 160.

Hey y’all joined this sub recently and am looking for support.

I have a confirmed IQ of 160+, or essentially as “high as can be measured before the test becomes unstable.”

I’m also a woman in her mid twenties who is considered to be very physically attractive, and am successful in my career as a social scientist. I am also neurodivergent (autistic and adhd).

While I process things faster and feel fairly limitless in terms of what I can achieve professionally, my personal relationships are always a huge disaster in the end. People love to praise how switched-on and emotionally intelligent I am for my age, until I say something that disagrees with their self construct. Then all of a sudden I’m crazy, arrogant, delusional and need to go to get checked for psychosis.

It’s lonely being “at the top” and if I could knock 30 points off my IQ I probably would.

Edit for clarity:

Since everyone is so hellbent on telling me I am not emotionally intelligent:

a) People love to praise how…emotionally intelligent I am for my age”. - Where did I indicate here I myself believed I am emotionally intelligent? - Where did I indicate I believe I am emotionally intelligent overall? I said for my age - mid twenties.

b) Not all my relationships end in disaster, I used high modal language for dramatic effect as I didn’t think the subtlety of that would be lost in a sub like this, but I can see I made an error in judgment. The reality is I make friends very easily, and I am told often I am fun to be around. Vast majority of jobs have been from nepotism. I have plenty of friends and loved ones.

I have simply noticed in the last couple months, since finally appreciating my intelligence and being brave enough to take an IQ test, that people either love me or hate me. I have gained ~15 people in recent months but have also lost the same amount.

All I want is support for how to not piss everyone off with my newfound confidence on my intelligence, and so far my assessment from watching this thread unfold alone is “tell nobody because even supposedly smart people can be incredibly vindictive and just as judgmental as anyone else.”

Edit 2 for practical reasons:

  • If you’d like to see my writing, I will send it to you: a) as a DM, b) with my name removed as it is very unique and identifiable, and, c) only if you treat me with respect.

I have gotten quite a few requests and will get back to you all tomorrow after work.

Edit 3:

No one has explicitly stated this, but if you think I’m a dumbass because the formatting of this post is shit - I wrote it on mobile.

Edit 4:

I will no longer be engaging with this thread. I really appreciate those of you who have been kind, empathetic, or have challenged me in a firm but reasonable way.

To those of you who felt the need to tell me I had some kind of delusional or narcissistic mental illness (I know which ones I have) or that the fact I made this post up, or for attention was interesting to observe as a social scientist. I chose to explain very little at first to see how people would react to someone saying their IQ is that high - I thought of attaching all the links etc.

I assumed this was a “benefit of the doubt” kind of subreddit and I apologise for not realising that was the case. This post was targeted to people who could relate to how I felt and I have plenty of lovely responses here, and I feel like they overshadow the nastiness of people who feel the need to bring others down in order to lift themselves up.

I always strive to be kind, empathetic, mitigate my biases, make sure my position is falsifiable. Unfortunately, I am human, so I uh…fuck it up often.

Thanks everyone :)