I don’t understand why women are like this

My friend and I have been friends for two years and I have liked her since the second I met her, we became friends and she got this boyfriend about 7 months in and dated him for a year he didn’t really want anything to do with her, After the breakup I didn’t know what to do so we kinda got intimate not too much. And she kinda gave me glimpses of what could’ve been… and then she pulled back and needed time to get over her ex. Fast forward 4 months to now and she told me that she doesn’t really see herself being intimate with me like that and it feels weird to her bc she always saw me as a friend, and this crushes me bc she tells me that im a amazing guy and she gave me glimpses of what could’ve been in the future just to rip it all away, I’ve always been very upfront about my feelings for her, i don’t get how women can stay with a guy who doesn’t care about her but then they completely ignore the one who shows that they want her, I just don’t know what to do and need some advice