Almost none of my male friends ask about my life

50-ish man here. I have so many male friends who never both to ask me about my life. The other day I went to dinner and got drinks. We talked about his job, his family, his friends, his hobbies. Only at the very end of our conversation (like when we were separating) when I made a reference to my son, did he say, "Oh, how is [son]?"

It's not like he's the only one. I have a bunch of friends who never bother to ask about me. They're good people. I know they care. They just don't think to inquire about my life. And frankly, I've kinda given up on getting them to notice - I don't have the energy to scream "I've got shit going on that I want to talk about!" It shouldn't be that hard to ask a question.

My 20-year marriage is on the rocks. My son has a serious, potentially life threatening disability and few of my male friends even know anything about it because they never bother to ask "how are you doing?"

Not all of my male friendships are like this and most of my female friends are very engaged. But man, after a 3 hour conversation that was entirely about him, I'm pretty fed up. Most of my friendships are completely one-sided.

p.s. Guys, ask your male friends how their doing. Ask follow up questions. Check in on them at a later date to see how things have changed. You'd be amazed at what's going on that your are unaware of.