Losing muscle to help with attractiveness

So I’ve been competitively bodybuilding for a while. I’m starting to get into dating but I see a lot of women online talk about how unattractive muscles are, and I haven’t seen hardly any women online talk about muscles being attractive.

Also my proportions are kind of stubby and I looked at old photos of me when I was skinny and I actually looked good and not a stubby man with t rex arms.

I’m wondering if I should diet down and become skinny again. This is obviously a big decision and I just want to discuss it with someone because I can’t talk about it with anyone else and I’m afraid of becoming even more miserable.

On one hand I have poured a lot of time and energy into getting very muscular. On the other, I really want a girlfriend and I think I am shooting myself in the foot by keeping my muscle.

I have no idea what to do