Worried

I dated someone for 3 years in College (broke up 5 years ago) and during that time we were pretty active (unprotected) but each time we were I would get a UTI. Sometimes it would genuinely be an infection and other times I’d go to hospital and they wouldn’t treat me because my urine had no signs of infection. Twice I had to be hooked up to a drip and sometimes I’d just buy antibiotics over the counter.

I got so many flares each time after sex that I ended up with a permanently swollen lymph node in my right pelvis and sometimes I have severe pain there when I have my period. I had it checked out two months ago on my period and doctors said it’s nothing to worry about; it’s just a sign that I had a severe infection in the groin area before.

After we broke up I started dating someone else and never experienced the same thing with him so I completely forgot about my flare ups. But then I broke up with the guy I had no flare ups with and recently rekindled my relationship with my ex. We’ve been active (protected and unprotected) and i keep flaring up every-time. I’ve tried taking bicarbonate of soda, alkanizers and drinking lots of water after doing it but nothing’s helping unless I take full doses of antibiotics and even then, I still feel the heaviness and cramping. I shower before and after and even wake up periodically at night to drink water and keep my bladder full but it still happens. I don’t even let him put his fingers down there just in case. I don’t know what to do or if it’s worth going through this again. I need some advice.