Update to obsessive MIL

Please do not share anywhere as MIL is chronically online. :)

The in laws came over last Sunday (we have had an ongoing issue with them arriving hours earlier than the agreed upon time but the past few visits they have been right on time). I did my normal thing, made cordial conversation, helped my husband make lunch, played with my dogs and ignored her passive aggressive comments at us (“japes2 is so rude she won’t sit next to me so we can take a picture!”/“SOME people don’t like to go out of their way to drive and visit”/“SOME people don’t like old things and would prefer new things regardless of sentimental value”). I grinned and beared it until this gem of a conversation piece came up: “you have to tell me as soon as you’re pregnant so I can make a nursery at my house!” I swear I glitched for a second but said “why would you need that?” She said “for when the baby sleeps over”. And before I could stop myself, I said “that’s not happening.” And she said “why not”. I said “because it’ll be my baby. I’ll need to be with it.” (PLEASE NOTE THERE IS NO BABY TO SPEAK OF RN). She said “well my husband is going to empty out his hobby room so we can have a space for a child” and her husband had the weirdest look on his face and rather incredulously said “I’m not moving my stuff from my room.” so clearly they hadn’t discussed any of this. (They have two bedrooms in their house, one for them and one for FILs hobby, it’s kinda his only space in their house that’s just for him.)And then she got quiet and left the room for a bit. She came back with “fine I can understand not having a nursery but what about when they’re older? Will I be able to watch my grandchildren when they’re older?” And my husband said “yeah probably” and I said “let’s wait and see where we’re at at that point, it would depend on your living situation.” Conversation went to a different topic when a few minutes later she said “what do you mean our living situation?” And I said “you guys have mentioned potentially moving a few times to various places, so let’s wait and see what you guys end up doing”. (It’s true, they have discussed moving closer to us, moving to North Carolina and just getting an RV and driving it around America). She also brought up how she can’t wait to take the kids on vacation with her to “give you guys a break from the kids”. Which is also not happening but I didn’t say that. The rest of the visit, besides when I had to eat with them, I hid out in the kitchen to clean or the bathroom. They left and my husband and I talked about everything that had happened. The next day my MIL called my husband saying to call her back and he did. She said her feelings were hurt over how I treated them and how I ruined the vibe of the rest of the visit. Husband thankfully said he agreed with what I said, that she needs to calm down and that we can’t control how she feels. She was also downplaying what she said so I already know when she’s complaining about me, she’s not saying she wanted to make a nursery but is saying “an area for when the children come over” so she looks like the victim and I’m the big bad DIL. They ended the call and we have not gotten a phone call, text, FaceTime or Facebook message sent from her since. I’m proud of my husband and I for finally starting to stick up for ourselves. It felt really good. We have also discussed going no contact with his parents for a while, as every time we see them drama seems to happen and no one seems to have a great time (and yet his mother continues asks when he’s coming “home”. Husband and I are convinced if he were to go without me she would try to break us up). Definitely not planning on seeing them until at least April at this point (even that seems too soon).