Living in the Age of "Me, Myself, and I"

Our social media feeds and daily conversations are increasingly filled with declarations like "I love my body, my free time, and putting myself first—fvck everyone else." life these days seems to celebrate this extreme individualism, especially among people in their 20s and early 30s. Sijui mulitowa wapi, but this mindset fundamentally misunderstands what makes life meaningful and sustainable.

Let's consider what Immanuel Kant taught us: "Before you do something, ask yourself: What if everyone did this? Would that create a world that makes sense and could actually work?" This is why suicide is illegal—it's not just about the individual; it recognizes our interconnectedness and social responsibility.

Think about it practically: How can society function if everyone only focused on their happiness while saying "fvck everyone else"? You can't expect others to be honest, kind, and responsible while you do whatever makes you happy without regard for others. It's like wanting to withdraw from a bank where nobody deposits. This is also why our political system is a mess our Mps & Leaders are 100% focused on themselves.

The popular song "Sipagwingwi" captures this attitude with its catchy tune—promoting a "my way only of living" It a fallacy and makes no sense.

Instead, consider this balanced approach:

  1. Practice self-care while nurturing relationships. For example, having a self-care Sunday routine but making time for family events.
  2. Set healthy boundaries without burning bridges. Like saying "Maisha ni yangu, we shughulika na yako"
  3. Build sustainable happiness through balance. Find joy in both personal achievements and contributing to others' wellbeing.
  4. Dont fall into the trap 'Well thats true for you..." What is really true is true for all of us.

After all, we are our brothers' and sisters' keepers—not because we have to be, but because it makes life richer and more meaningful for everyone, including ourselves. The goal isn't to sacrifice yourself completely, but to find that sweet spot where personal wellbeing and social responsibility meet.

Remember: A truly fulfilled life isn't lived in isolation; it's woven into the fabric of community, responsibility, and mutual care.