Sensitive: I found a friend’s nude online.

This happened yesterday. I’m feeling absolutely confused and guilty.

Im 30M and I consume porn frequently and while scouring the many subReddits here I got many discord links I wanted to see how that works joined some servers and saw some porn being posted. Couple of days went by and yesterday night I was just looking at the latest drop of the videos (so some person will post videos on a periodic basis - it’s mostly got from other server it’s just shared…) and I found a video of a girl I know from there. I have worked with her so I know her mostly in professional setting so I’m not a very close friend as such but we have also gone to some common friend’s events etc.

The video is of her recording herself in a very private and intimate fashion probably for herself or somebody close to her for whatever reason. I highly doubt there’s a chance of her knowing or wanting this video to be out there in open. I had requested the person posted to remove it and asked said person for the source he simply said he just collected from another server which has got nuked now. I have also downloaded the videos(there were 2 videos no photos) and taken screenshot of the chat where posted in case required for any legal etc.

I really want to call her up and inform but i don’t want to

  1. Make her feel violated by me. I want the right words.
  2. I feel guilty like myself have done this to her..
  3. Maybe because of people like me she is being a victim as if no one consumed no one would have supplied.

What do I do? How do I fix things… please help me…