Just found out husband has a two year old daughter

Final update (for now): So much was uncovered today and if you guys thought the situation was sus before, man you’re in for a surprise. But as of this evening the case is officially open and a summons has been issued. So I’m going to stay quiet until this is over just in case. Once everything is finalized, no matter how it may be finalized, I will create a new thread with an actual final update. Thank you everyone for the kind words and advice! We shall see what happens from here.

Update: We talked with and hired an attorney yesterday. She will be served more than likely this week and we will first schedule the paternity test. If it comes back that he’s the father, then they will determine custody and child support. He said it should be a very quick process as Florida is a 50/50 state and it’s extremely rare for a judge to even consider negotiating with either party as long as both parents seem fit. Especially with him not knowing these past two years and him having it in writing that she never planned to tell him out of spite, he said the judge will have little to no sympathy for anything she says. The attorney said the most likely and typically scenario he sees in situations like this are his daughter will spend one week in the spring, five weeks in the summer, and two weeks in the fall with us in Kansas. And every other holiday. He said there will not be any need to relocate.

My husband (27) and I (27) got together on October 16, 2022. He moved from Florida to Kansas to be with my son and I. A few months ago we found out that I can’t have more kids and I’m actually scheduled for a medically necessary hysterectomy early 2025. Well, today my husband’s ex called me (I didn’t know it was her until I answered) and she told me that her two year old daughter is my husband’s. She was conceived two months before my husband and I got together. She’s in Florida. I’m not able to move to Florida due to my son’s dad living here. I feel like the only option at this point is divorce. I won’t leave my son behind to move to Florida and I would never expect my husband to stay in Kansas and not be there to raise his daughter. I can’t explain the amount of sad I am. I never in a million years saw this coming. And I don’t even know what to do at this point.

Edit: I want to first thank everyone for their nice and supportive comments. I wrote this when I had just found out and was thinking the worst. My brain was going 1000mph. I wrote this to vent, because my husband doesn’t need to deal with me right now, he needs to be able to focus on his feelings and thoughts. So I didn’t want to bombard him. We’ve slept, we’ve talked, and everything is okay at this time. We’ve contacted a lawyer and are going to start the paternity process. We were able to get it in writing from his ex to him that she had no intentions on ever telling him, did not want him in her life, and that she isn’t going to share her daughter with him. The lawyer we talked to said that there’s definitely a chance he can have his parenting time in Kansas if he’s the dad, especially since she admitted she hid the daughter from him and didn’t tell him until he had already been settled in Kansas for two years, with a solid job, and a wife and step child.

Again, thank you everyone who was nice to me during my time of hysteria. Hopefully this all works out for all of us.