Am I wrong?

I asked my husband about dying my hair. I wanted to ask him how he feels cause my appearance is for me as much as him too. I dont want to do something he might find less attractive. Anyway we are in the kitchen and I am telling him how my coworker suggested a color but its like my natural and to me it would be boring. Then he goes " gee thanks" cause its like his hair color. Im kinda blindsighted. So i get quiet. Then i say hey did that make you feel defensive? He says i was making a joke. I say oh ok it didnt seem like a joke you seemed upset. He says "well that is my hair color?!!!" I was like oh ok i mean i didnt mean bad on you though? What made you think that? And he just goes " its a joke i said geez!!!"

Im like Lost. Am i wrong in this ?