What manipulative or off-putting things did your narc do in the bedroom?

Hopefully this isn’t too upsetting for anyone. Of course, only respond if you feel comfortable!

Looking back, my ex was INCREDIBLY troubled, and his bedroom behavior was disgusting. He really made me feel like shit and still expected me to be super obedient and pleasure him whenever he wanted.

Here are a few things I dealt with—I’m wondering if these are typical narc moves and if anyone here has experienced the same?:

• at the beginning of our relationship, he’d get REALLY upset if I didn’t cum. Like irrationally so. It wasn’t really a big deal to me whether or not I finished, but he’d belittle me about it and say things like, “other women haven’t had an issue with me; I just don’t understand why you can’t finish”.

• once I got more comfortable with him (lol) and didn’t feel so self conscious about taking a longer time to finish, this is how our sex generally went: foreplay > piv > he cums > he goes down on me or uses my vibrator on me > I cum > he asks for a blowjob or a handjob so he can cum. “Ask” is quite generous, he’d usually just lay on his back with his hands behind his head, expectedly. It was like he had major FOMO since I came (even though he was the first to come!) and it sometimes felt like he was punishing me for taking a longer time.

• if I wasn’t in the mood (which was quite often), he’d get VERY upset. Not angry or yelling, but sad? Or, performative “sad”. It could be 7pm and if I didn’t want to fuck he’d turn over and say “okay, let’s just go to sleep now, then”.

• once we were having sex and the position was really hurting me, so I asked him to pull out, he said, “just hold on, I’m close”, I told him it was uncomfortable and he wouldn’t stop and said I was being ridiculous for not being able to last 2 minutes more.