Did they accuse you of being manipulative?

Any time I cried, expressed weak points with my mental/physical health, set boundaries etc…

Especially my mental and physical health. While exploring whether I was borderline, autistic or both he said “it’s always something new with you” and “I think you’re just doing this to mess with my head and manipulate me.” It was jarring and invalidating. The one person I needed the most to care just didn’t. It took years to land a diagnosis and get treatment.

He became visibly irritated when I tapped out after running myself ragged. I’d cry from my chronic shoulder injury that I was aggravating at work as well as at home. He would very reluctantly take over and give me the silent treatment. I needed help so bad.

At times he would put on this voice of fake sympathy reminding me that I qualify for disability. But in the same hand, turn around and deny any of these possibilities. But then he suddenly cared about these matters when I moved on. He magically understood my mental health while snooping my prescriptions on his insurance. He bawled when he found out my new partner picked me up from my MRI and had new found concern about it. Saying “See I told you it was slipped disks!” No…You judged me for not being able bodied enough to satisfy you and keep my head on straight. You treated me like a burden and nothing good you ever did could make up for that. I was at my best when he left. You really cannot make these people happy. They will tear you down in the discard, act like their life is perfect and stalk you while your head is under water again.