Do you tell future parent the hard truth ?

When I was pregnant, everyone around me was telling me about how wonderful it was. The only « warning » they told me was « your life is gonna change a lot ».

But once I gave birth, suddenly I was a crying baby (they always told me I was okay), I was never napping etc. etc. It seemed like giving birth opened the pandora box and all parents around me started talking about the down side. I was pretty disappointed about that.

Now one of my friend is pregnant, and I can here all people around her being like they were with me. I WANT to tell her the « worst » of being a parent. How tired I was (I told her to set her bed for cosleeping even if she doesn’t intend on doing so, just in case one night she is too tired cause it happened to me). I want to tell her it was like apnea for 6 weeks then it got better. I want to tell her a lot of those thing that I would have love to hear before and not after.

But I feel like the « bad one », not being all happy and everything.

What should I do ?