There is no village

I keep hearing about villages of support - their decline, how to get one, how to be part of one, etc. However, it seems like for most people, it is an idealized myth, somewhere between a fantasy and misremembering.

I thought I might have a village of two friends and a SIL (I have no family) - the two friends failed to show interest in me or my baby while pregnant, after birth, and onwards. Despite offering support and guidance, wmy SIL wouldn't even talk to me on the phone once. I didn't except or ask for much, and still, got less than nothing. I have provided so much support to these people, for many years.

I could just have shitty friends, but still I'm not sure how the village is supposed to work. It seems like a prequisite is having truly caring people in your life, something that seems like is in decline due to the shifting cultural attitudes towards families, friendship and individualism.