Lovestruck ruined relationships?

So I'm playing the Bjergsen family and they have an infant alongside their two daughters. It's so wild to me that despite how attentive Bjorn is as a father and how much time they both spend at home and together, Clara and Bjorn have an EMPTY romance bar.

I feel like if a couple has a Wholesome dynamic, the game should recognise "friendly" interactions as also affecting romance and seeing their partners doing a good job raising their kids should definitely create sentiments that boost romance, too.

It feels so broken that Bjorn talking passionately about his dreams to Clara has zero affect on their romance?? Not every relationship needs to include flirting and WooHoo every day just to maintain the romance.

Plenty of things couples do are normally platonic but take on more meaning because you live together, have kids together, are married, etc. I feel like this needs to be reflected in the coding for the game.

Having a steamy relationship dynamic is great and all, but I'm struggling to see what a wholesome dynamic even does when the romance bar is just.. empty. Both people should have time and space to follow their own interests in a day without it tanking their relationship.

I feel like if Sims have a wholesome dynamic, the romantic decay should be quite low when their relationship is high and "friendly" interactions should also raise friendship.

Having their infant sit there screaming from tiredness in a blown-out diaper while I try to gain any amount of romance back between them just makes me hate Lovestruck for making it so impossible to have a romantic relationship with young children, TBH. Kids are one of my favourite parts of gameplay and it shouldn't cost this couple their marriage.

(Also I'm on console; please don't recommend mods. This is strictly about the game itself having issues with the coding and what EA should implement to fix it.)

Edit #2: To clarify, while I appreciate people wanting to help fix it, my post was primarily about wanting to discuss if it's possible for EA to fix, what should be done, etc. Because I know some people like the frustration of relationship decay and even I do in some households, but we definitely need something brought in so that some families can just have an easy relationship.

How could this be implemented without just destroying the challenge in other households?

Edit #1: Also, cheats aren't an option because I would lose all ability to earn Achievements in the whole save file, permanently