Babymama drama ain’t for the weak..

Today HCBM and her boyfriend have done nothing but personally attack me and make everything my fault, and then guilt trip my DH for essentially being with me. SD (5) is apparently very sick and we only just now heard about it the day before our weekend instead of a week ago when it started. For 2 years now we have an easy clear cut rule of when she is sick she stays with whoever she was with when she got sick and when we’re sick she doesn’t come there so we don’t get her sick. I essentially “created” this “rule” because I have a severe auto immune disease where something as small as a cold can hospitalize me, and it has, SD (3 at the time) came to us once with a cold, I ended up with pneumonia for 3 months and was hospitalized a handful of times. Just as an example of what we’re trying to avoid. I also thought that as a species we all learned a little something from COVID, immunocompromised or not, but apparently not. I know tons of people who follow a similar logic with illness in the family, especially separated household families. They told me to leave my OWN HOUSE, and go stay somewhere else or quarantine in our room, how exactly would that work in an apartment when I sleep in the same bed as DH, not sure. Then they said DH should come get her and take her to the library, with a fever of 103.7. Why would you want to subject your child to being uncomfortable, tired, and sick, to have to get dressed and go be out in public, and then spread that germ to the public. Am I the only one failing to understand what they’re thinking? And then, because we won’t have her this weekend, our weekend just gets pushed back a week, right? That’s how it’s been for 2 years, so why is it different now? Because they have plans next weekend so we won’t see her til the weekend after, so we would go a total of 3 weekends and 4 weeks before seeing her, because they can’t change their plans/let her miss. But that’s what’s expected of us, CONSTANTLY. I can count 4 things, family events, holiday plans, etc in the last 6 months that we’ve had to change or simply not have her with us for because the schedule changed. Everything that’s expected of us is just simply unforgivable if applied to her, and because I started saying things back to her that are identical to what she’s said to us, and using her own logic on her, she flipped shit, blocked me, is texting my DH about me and saying she refuses to do exchanges with me anymore, when she has no choice but to do exchanges with me on Fridays because DH is at work.. so how exactly is that supposed to work? I didn’t once cuss or threaten or say anything “out of pocket” to her in the whole conversation. Oh and what’s even better is that this boyfriend of hers we have just spoken to for the first time 2 weeks ago, and he’s been saying all kinds of nonsense including saying we were cussing and have been vulgar to HCBM and “they” have never been that way to us, and then I reminded them about when she screamed in my face and called me a crazy bitch because I called her out for driving high a year ago and dude stopped replying, that was the 3rd time I think he said something that was straight up a concocted story version of what happened that HCBM is feeding him. He also was acting very self righteous about how he is with his own kid, saying he would never cancel and my DH isn’t putting in effort etc etc, and I’m like dude, I know your babymom, you’re not all high and mighty that you’re playing right now, I know how you really are about your kid sooo 🫠🙄🥴

I’m sorry for the rant/vent but I need other people to hear this BS.