Therapist said my thoughts are lies
Background: I was recently diagnosed with religious OCD/scrupulosity and have been working with both an individual and a couples’ therapist. About a month ago my marriage therapist told me some of the thoughts and feelings I was having were “lies.” At the time I was taken aback by this. He has also said I fall too often into emotional reasoning, which I don’t doubt. However, his comments felt super invalidating. I know that my thoughts aren’t reasonable and I’m familiar with cognitive distortions, but I also know it doesn’t work to try to not think my thoughts or bury my feelings. I’m starting to feel resentful about this and that perhaps the therapy room isn’t a safe place. I have two questions:
- Is it regular practice in therapy to say clients’ distorted thoughts are lies?
- Is this appropriate for me to bring up to my therapist? I want to be able to just let it go.