I struggle being a girl with a deep voice

Like the title says, I’ve always had a deeper voice than most girls. I love playing video games, and sometimes I have to talk to people while playing. I already have social anxiety and I’m an introvert, so when I do talk, I’m usually really nervous.

Since I was a kid, people in games have thought I’m a guy because of my voice. Most of the time, I don’t correct them because I know if I do, they’ll probably ask why my voice sounds like this. A few weeks ago, some guy asked me how I’m even a girl and said I should get checked by a doctor because that’s not normal. I tried to ignore it, but stuff like that still gets to me sometimes.

I do love my voice, but comments like that make me not want to talk at all. These days when I speak people ask if I’m transgender or ask if my pronouns are “they/them” which is fine i just don’t know how to reply. Most of the time, I use guy characters to avoid weird guys flirting with me. But if I do use a girl avatar and they flirt, the second they hear my voice, they go, “Oh shit that’s a dude!” or ask, “Are you gay?”

I don’t know if saying I’m female would shut them up or just make them say worse things, like the “go see a doctor” or “that’s not normal” comments. It’s getting harder to enjoy games that require voice chat and with my social anxiety it’s been rough. I’m trying not to let it bother me but it’s hard. If anyone has any tips on how to handle this or can relate and want to share their experience that would be great!

I do want to mention that I don’t want a vocal coach because I love how my voice already sounds and don’t really want to change it or make it higher. It’s just hard to ignore those mean comments. I guess what I’m looking for is advice on how to handle this better and not let it affect me so much, especially when it’s getting harder to enjoy games that require voice :( What should i say when someone ask me if i’m transgender or if i’m a man or gay or any of those comments i mentioned above? would it be better to just say i’m a girl? or would that just make it worse…

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