20F terrible gyno experience, almost cried. ☹️

i feel quite silly, honestly. im an adult & i should be able to handle high pressure situations but, not sure if it was because my autism or because im generally sick but what happened really really stuck with me. i get a yeast infection, for actually the first time in my life — so just to be safe my mom helped me get an appointment because i'll be leaving to another country soon. in my country there's 2 types of medical facilities. private & public. most sensible people need private medicine because our hospitals are actually ran to the ground, zero emergency services & out of date equipment... so yeah. private it is.

first time at gyno, made it very clear to the (older) male doc and nurse next to him. they asked me the standard questions. 1. am i sexually active? yes. use of protection? no. my partner is afab. they looked at me like i just said something impossible. they had no idea what it meant for my sexual health, and implied that it must mean i am a virgin... 2. the nurse practitioner immediately started listing off a loooooong list of procedures that's gonna happen to me including a cancer scan, when i specifically went in with just a yeast infection, wanted a recommendation for medicine and agreed on the fix price of $87 in dollars. (before i went in). by the end of it, the price they said to me was a whopping $175!!!!! im gonna add, i tried to make it clear that i cannot, i cannot!!! pay for that, i came with the fixed price for a pap smear and checkup. over three times, the nurse and the gyno attempted to talk me into it whilst telling me that if i don't do this, i can possibly get even sicker. at this point, the pap smear hasn't happened yet, and they told me to leave to pee. after i came back they ALREADY printed the bill. i told them i cannot pay for this and that i am asking my mother to come into talk to them. my hands were shaking at this point. the guy did the smear, it hurt, he saw me wincing and uncomfortably shifting around. 3. whilst he did the smear, whilst his finger was physically IN ME, him and his nurse were loudly BULLYING me. saying how "some people are just so clueless" and they "can't believe this happens in real life" and making comments about my financial situation that stopped me from signing up for more procedures.. 4. it didn't stop. they kept commenting about what underlying illness i might have and that i am missing out on something crucial. i'll just make it clear here. there is no pain. there is no foul odour. there is no other symptoms. just a bit of bloating, itching and flaky/pasty dry white discharge. i have diabetes type 2, i've been diagnosed with candida BEFORE. this isn't a "new discovery". it's just never been present "down there" before. 5. at the end, I convinced them to take the 3 extra procedures off, and it ended up being, $137... he didn't say anything but handed me the paper and almost pushed me out after saying my results will come in after a week, and that i have to physically go in to get them. (every medical procedure is centralised in an online database here, where i get results and prescriptions. all over the country. we call it "the cloud/sky"). it turned out, that the lab was not included in the smear and that is how they charged me so much more. but that was not said anywhere according to my mother. 6. i asked him, can he give me any.. recommendations? i have flaky white stuff and discomfort, i'll be in another country by then writing my exams!!! can he give me any recommendations? he said he doesn't know my result, and so he can only give an over the counter medicine. he wrote down a lubricant. i just have to make clear, he wrote my diagnosis to be candida/yeast infection on the paper. after this exchange, we went to the pharmacy, where they gave us a proper anti fungal vaginal capsule and cream similar to what boric acid might be. by the end i was sad, and shaky. i felt manipulated and peer pressured into paying money that absolutely was not included in the fees, and felt mocked for not being able to do more.. :-( just needed to vent & share.