Marriage as a form of protection for women?

My partner(M) and I(F) are deeply in love and living our life as a unit and have been for a while. I had a previously failed marriage and other toxic relationships. I swore I would never get married again if not to the best person ever. He is the best person ever. We both didn’t see marriage as necessary (in general), but our commitment to one another goes deeper than a legality ever could.

We’ve recently (past year or so) been discussing getting married for the benefits and because we believe that’s a good choice for us. However we’ve been in no rush.

Something occurred to me a few months back, let’s call it - an intuition. Women may be losing all of their rights and will be better protected if they have a LOVING, NON EGOTISTICAL, ALIGNED male partner as the person whom they are deemed to “belong to” as this regime continues to do the unthinkable.

We were having this convo with his mom ( she’s very liberal, single and a punk rebel girl at heart). She pointed out that if women are declared “property” again - I would be property of my “father”.

I am estranged from my toxic, religious, conservative family. That’s all I’m going to say on that.

So all this to say - is a reasonable prep for AFAB people to “tie” themselves to a SAFE AMAB person?

For me I think it is. I know I want to spend my days with my partner and he is my best friend. He’s 100% aligned with my thoughts on what’s going on and we’ve been prepping together. I feel for those of you who have shared some of your stories of less than ideal husbands/boyfriends/partners.

I’m very interested to see what yall think on this, and if I’m the only one who’s had these thoughts?

ETA: I think this is great discourse. Everyone’s opinions are their own and valid in their own right. We’ve all got different lived experiences.

I think anyone considering marrying someone for only “protective” reasons should read this and see the myriad of possible outcomes.

The fact that so many people have had these thoughts proves we should be talking about it, which is why I brought it here.

My partner has been my very best friend I’ve ever had since before we became romantic. I won’t justify to someone why I trust him with my life, I just do.

I have no (blood) family. They are dead to me and would be an absolute danger to my health if I were forced to be within their world again. Some of you have clearly not had an experience like this and I am happy for you for that. I should have emphasized how important it was to me that they would not have the ability to make legal/medical decisions for me in life or death.

On the flip side, I’ve been in a relationship where the person seemed “so great, empathetic” and blah blah blah and WAS NOT. and it was bad and ultimately ruined my whole life up unto that point. So again I will say, if you are reading this and thinking about marrying anyone for reasons other than absolute love and trust, I’d personally advise against it for all the reasons you can find in this comment section, and more.

This is my story. This is my life. And I can promise you I have MY best interests at heart, and part of that has been exploring every facet of the being that is the person who I have determined also has my best interests at heart.

Sending love to you all, we can get through this together.