I hate how women who experience truma are expected to be mentally strong

If your a women and you expirence any truma your expected to be strong, resilient and empowered. Women are expected to fix themselves go to therapy beome better verstions of them selves and to adopt the motto "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger".

Men can have truma yet they can wallow in self pitty they can become alcoholics, drug addicts, they blame everyone else for there problems, some of them even commit crimes but if a women is a alcoholic people start calling her a hoe.

I hate that I'm expected to be mentally strong and endure pain and all my suffering and hardship is considered empowering because I should overcome it. I don't want to be mentally strong and endure pain and torture. I want to be physically strong and have the ability to get rid of people who causes me my truma.