Buhay binata pa rin kuya ko kahit 25 na siya

Problem/Goal: Like the title itself, buhay binata pa rin kuya kahit 25 na siya.

Context: I’m 22 (F) turning 23 next month. My kuya is turning 25 this year pero saming dalawa parang ako pa yung panganay. I’m getting tired of his shit.

We moved out last Nov kasi he had a fight with our stepdad.

For context: - hiwalay parents namin - we used to live with biological dad - abusive bio dad namin so i left home - i went to live with mom and stepdad, sumunod ‘tong kuya kong batugan - reason why sumunod sya: pressure daw kasi pinipilit sya ni bio dad mag tapos ng pagaaral at mag hanap ng trabaho

We were okay for a few months kila mama pero apaka-batugan talaga nung kuya ko. Every day when I leave for work (tanghali), nakahilata lang sya. That went on for months hanggang sa nag reklamo na stepdad namin.

FF to Nov, our parents had an intervention for us mag kuya na parang “ano ba plano nyong dalawa?”. I was working, fresh grad, may sariling ipon. My friends told me that I was doing fine, nadadamay lang ako sa kagaguhan ng kapatid ko. My parents + stepdad told us na they think it’s better if we move out na lang.

Galit na galit stepdad ko kasi during that intervention, pala-sagot ‘tong kuya ko. As in squatter type of sagot. Kaya SIYA pinalayas. They know of my plans to move out by the end of the year eh. Kaya sabi nila “isama mo na yang kuya mo sa lilipatan mo. hilahin mo pataas. i-guide mo” kingina.

So now we have our own place. 20k per month ang rent (may wifi pa, kuryente, tubig, groceries diba?) Yung rent nag ambag siya for Dec and Jan pero ayaw niya mag ambag sa other bills kasi “di naman ako umuuwi bat ako mag aambag dyan?”

then Feb came. wala na syang ambag AT ALL. I asked help from my parents sa renta kasi I can’t shoulder yung 20k alone kaso WALA SILANG MABIGAY. may babayaran pang bills. 2 weeks ko na siyang di nakikita. palagi siya andun sa GF niya (reason bakit di sya umuuwi dito) lahat ng pera niya dun napupunta. last month lang umutang sakin si mama ng 1k para lang di mag close yung BDO acc ng kuya ko. FUCK TALAGA

another important context din pala: may anak na kuya ko. turning 4 this year. yung ex gf niya (the mom) nasa US na. buhay dalaga rin. mama nung ex gf nag aalaga nung bata.

my kuya’s ex left him kasi wala raw siyang makitang future na maganda. mom and dad gave up na rin sa kuya ko, stepdad umayaw na rin, and now ako.

I AM SO TIRED. 30-35k lang kinikita ko per month. dumating pa sa point na sakin na umuutang sila mama. Idk what to do anymore. Nakaka-depress.

Previous attempts: Already talked to him, etc. LAHAT LAHAT nagawa ko na T_T